I have had many years experience managing Facebook Groups and also developing and running Facebook Group-like social networks in niche industries. The groups concept does not work efficiently in any industry, let alone in dating, where is it prone to fall into one of two major categories – I mean, the resulting style of Group communication – both of which provide poor results for dating.
They are:
- Large groups that are full of fake accounts – scammers playing a numbers game by friending and messaging thousands of members a day (often with automated scripts), phishing for a sucker or two to love bomb or scam in some other way – with the aim of getting moneys out of you.
- Groups that are based in a local area or for specific types of people. These tend to be very fluid with members coming and going at a high rate. The members that do stay for a long period of time and hold on to the group are very often already in a relationship, stuck there single forever for a reason or just lonely souls looking for friends.
Both types of group have a low success rate in matching you with a suitable partner. This is also a result of the fact that Facebook Groups are not set up to cater for matching people – they don’t have dating profile fields, there is zero control over authenticity of Facebook members, there are no algorithms for matching people… no matching games. Essentially, Facebook groups are just little social communities – you may as well pop into a local bar and try your luck there.
Large Groups with Fake Accounts
I joined a big Facebook Dating group on 05 Feb 2024 just to see what would happen. I didn’t write any message in the group and only have one photo on my attached Facebook account.
Yet immediately after being admitted to the group, I started getting friend requests from accounts that are clearly fake – with some model photograph of what society things is a beautiful woman, complete with a two part name that often didn’t fit with their claimed nationality, and with accompanying messages that occurred in impossible time-frames for a human to send them.
I purposely accepted every friend request and received an immediate friendly message from over half of them. Also, as soon as I accepted a friend request, I would receive multiple more from friends of theirs. This is all happening either via a script or via a group of scam employees sitting in offices or internet cafes with quotas of how many suckers they should scam per day.
Please, both men and women reading this… if you join a group and immediately get friend requests, be skeptical. More so if they look great. People who are active for years in Facebook Groups often have never had a friend request from within the group. Likewise, you can spend weeks liking people on an app like Tinder and never get a match. Why do you think that you are suddenly so popular in that Facebook Group you just joined. Stop deceiving yourself. You are a fresh target, nothing more.
There is real love to find out there. But the chances of that happening in a Facebook Group is very very low.